an open letter to men who want to date me

When we are in the beginning stage of "dating." When we are talking, and IM'ing daily. When we don't yet know each others' routine schedules. When it's not assumed that we'll see each other every weekend. When we are still slowly trying to figure out if we like each other enough. Don't ask me repeatedly "So when am I going to see you again?"

Ask me out. For a date.

Have an actual day in mind and a specific activity to suggest. Especially when, in the interest of fairness, I have already volunteered one or two days in the near future that I am available. I know it's difficult to put yourself out there. But really? Could I make this any easier for you - aside from telling you EXACTLY when, where and how? Is it because I'm from the South that I expect this? That the man, at least intially, take the reins in hand and make things happen? It doesn't bode well for the bedroom - or the boardroom- if you cannot even ask me to dinner. Or cocktails. Or a movie, or a play, ANYTHING.

And if you have a specific date in mind, and have come through with an activity and a plan, it is still not acceptable to phone someone six times within a three hour period, leaving an almost identical message each time, to extend said invitation.